When Kindness is Misinterpretated as Rudeness

Sometimes even the best intentions can earn you insult and rudenss. It is not always the intention, but state of mind and past experiences defining your action. Have you ever experienced that you pointed out someone else mistake just to help him/ her, but other person took your help as offensive.

He thought that either you are mocking him or trying to make feel bad. Rudeness is not other person spontaneous action, but a defensive mechanism only operated to protect self esteem and dented confidence.

Now you must be wondering why does this happen to you? Your intentions are genuine and you really want to make other person feel better. Why suffering at your end? To crack down the entire scenario, you need to awaken a high level of awareness and emotional intelligence.

Before feeling bad, rewind the entire scenario and ask yourself a question that despite your positive attempt, what made the other guy furious? The reason beind the resistance could be past painful memories. May some guy in the past might have pinpointed the mistake to make fun in front of others.

The incident took a jolt preparing the subconscious mind to develop a defense mechanism. So next time, if you helped someone and he yeleld at you, don’t feel offended, instead use positive and empathic words to calm him down.

These words could be “Sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you” or say “Ok I won’t do this next time”. Now don’t expect the pleasantries , but your words will be play a crucial role in reframing other person perception. Later on in life, he would realize that life is not fair and making perception is a fully. Being spontaneous is the key.

So do what feels necessary to you, following your instincts. No matter what is coming your way, be yourself. We at Wisdom Tree Solutions, while providing NLP certification in Mumbai, Bangalore and other parts of India makes the participant aware about these fallible situations and act accordingly to avoid conflicts saving time and energy.