Often we are compared with our siblings, friends in terms of skill set, exposure, social circle propelling us to enhance performance and make our parents proud. The parents satisfy their egos through us. They want us to become competitive and enjoy defeating others, boosting our competitive drive.
Success results into expectations, there is no such thing as rough patch or failure, letting parents down is not an option. In the later years, this fear of failure and low self-esteem becomes an integral part of subconscious mind.
When you see people doing better than you, you feel deprived, agitated and jealous, asking yourself questions like “How come him? I am better. This guy doesn’t deserve these accolades”. You can’t digest the success of others resulting in low self-esteem. You don’t want to face your competitors; they might make fun of you.
You must be thinking, is there any way to use anger and low self-esteem as a tool to boost your competitive drive. Yes, there is a way:-
Heightened competition and social comparison- We socially compare our self with others in terms of relationship, job, health, finances leading to heightened competition. There will be always someone better than us. Health competition should be the priority. Use anger and anxiety to bring out the best version of you. Compete with your self, your biggest enemy is you.
Anger and shame leads to enhanced awareness- Yes anger and shame has unlimited side effects tarnishing the personality, but it also leads to enhanced awareness. During the state they can easily identify their weakness and loopholes sidelining them in this competitive world.
Acceptance- Yes, stress, anxiety and tension are a part of life. We are bound to fail, people might sloth us, thrash us for our weakness, but we have accept. Acceptance is the key. During our recent Life coaching certification program in Delhi, we highlighted the power of shame and anger, but used acceptance as a catalyst to transform their negative energies into positive results.
Every reaction is a form of energy, use it to your advantage instead of getting boggled by it.