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5 Things Confident People Do

Confidence is a feeling of certainty backing your repertoire and abilities in handling any given situation effectively. Almost 70% of our decisions are influenced by others, past track record and mass consciousness, making us a mere puppet controlled by the society.

When we cut off our ties with the external world and start believing our instincts, confidence emerges on the top surface. The courage to take risks; never say die attitude and fighting tendency to combat the obstacles and reach the desired goal are few symptoms of towering confidence.

A confident person is a source of inspiration for people around, he is never a part of the rat race. He designs his own road, own rules and follows them religiously. Once Indian batting maestro Sachin Tendulkar said “Success is a process… during that journey sometimes there are stones thrown at you, and you convert them into milestones,”.

Confident people don’t do different things, they do same things differently. Here are top ten things, confident people usually do:-

Self-efficacy- Confident people never make excuses, you would hardly hear these people blaming situations, resources and people for their failure. They have control over their emotions and believe in making things happen irrespective of all odd situations.

They never quit- “Winners never quit, quitters never win” , confident people never quit, they keep trying until taste success. It doesn’t mean they keep trying the same thing again and again. They experiment with their approach and don’t repeat the same mistake.

They don’t seek attention & praise from others

Confident people derive their self-worth and praise from within. Inner conscience is the source of their inspiration, they don’t attention and praise from others. People change with time and impressing them to earn self –worth is a waste of time and energy.

They never judge others

Confident people understand the facts of life and never judge others using them as a comparison tool to evaluate personal growth and performance. Everyone is different and possesses their own strength and weakness; copycat is for monkeys not humans.

They never define their territories

Confident and successful people never define their territories, making them complacent and lazy. They keep expanding their limitations and are always on the go all the time. Struggle and discomfort keeps us awake for success. Remember, no pain, no gain.

A person pouring with confidence is eligible to become most wanted leader. There is a plethora of examples available in the annals. Our Leadership Training Program takes a leaf out of annals and presents them in the most interactive way possible.

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Winning over addictions effortlessly through NLP techniques

Why do certain people fall in the trap of drug abuse and easily get addicted to drugs developing various anxiety disorders. If you look around the world you live, every personal has different sets of vulnerabilities. You need to press the right button and the person will panic in no times.

Everyone has some kind of addiction, drug is just a mere extension of it. Why are we becoming so vulnerable these days and instead of working on it, sway our way towards drugs. Insecurity, fear, loneliness and stress are the primary reason behind the drug abuse.

In many cases, people fell into drug abuse due to rejection or failure in long term interests. There are various factors responsible for mental vulnerabilities across the globe:-

Genetic vulnerability- Genetics play a major role in person personality. You inherit various qualities from your parents and this is the reason why some people easily get addicted, whereas some don’t.

Culture and social norms- “Birds of same feather flock together”. You will never find an alcoholic sharing positive camaraderie with highly successful influential personality. Company plays a big role in forming any habit, therefore it is advisable to choose the right company for better state of health and life.

Loneliness- The end goal for every human is happiness, but it is momentary and to sustain happiness we try every trick and formula possible within our mind. In many cases introvert guys find hard to maintain human contacts and eventually become lonely. This is also a big reason.

Easy availability- These drugs are easily available, may be not openly, but you know how to get it.

I can assure you, if you really want to win over drug addictions “Yes you can, yes you will”. NLP (Neuro Linguistic Program) techniques have done tremendous work in getting rid from addictions. It helps in finding your inner self, understanding the real reason behind the addiction and how to gel with the society in a positive way and changing the society in a drastic way. NLP empowers you to get rid of your vulnerabilities and change the social norms for better social and economical living. There are various personalities, who through NLP have got rid of addictions and completely transformed the society.


How Emotions Work?

Medical research has shown that holding back emotions may be a precursor for many illnesses. Cancer studies have shown that laughter as well as crying heightens the cure rate. Let’s become more aware of how a good belly laugh or a deep cry from our heart makes us feel better. In order to do so we will have to lift some veils of conditioning.

About 12 years ago, I was lucky enough to be part of an intense emotional meditative therapy group that proceeded non-verbally. A large group of over 50 people were guided daily for three hours through the process of laughing without taking a break. This went on for seven days. The following seven days were about crying and the atmosphere of sadness. Again, the whole group spent three hours daily simply wailing. The last seven days led into silent sitting and observing our emotions.

This experience was truly transformative and changed my life. I experienced that my emotional body is something else than I thought it was. I thought an emotion would be linked to something that happens. For example, when something wonderful happens, I might smile or laugh. When something horrible happens, I feel bad or cry. But now I realized this was not so. Our mind always tries to interpret and manifest meaning. The emotional body has its own rhythm and truth independent of the reasons and interpretations of our mind.

Laughter can be present and waiting to happen no matter what I experience. Similarly, no matter whether there may be a reason in my outer life or not, my tears might like to flow. What a tremendous insight! I made contact with a very powerful aspect of my emotional body. Emotions have a dimension within themselves that are not necessarily dependent on circumstances and not necessarily connected to my interpretations! This helped me tremendously to stop judging my feelings and allow any emotion more mindfully.

For example, now when I feel a strong pressure on the place above my heart rather than spending too much time trying to analyze what particularly triggered it, I may go to my girlfriend and ask if I can cry for a few moments. She already knows and understands. Some sweet moments of sobbing happen, maybe accompanied by some words, or maybe not, while she holds my hands. The event ends with a smile as both of us enjoy this release and healing.

This process can also be understood by following the impulses the brain sends to the muscles and glands. When we feel moody or unhappy, what happens in our neuro-physiology is that an impulse is sent from our brain but not translated into action. For example, if I feel angry, adrenaline needs to be released. Moving in a way that releases the adrenaline will create balance and feeling good. But if I don’t release the adrenaline, my emotions are likely to be blocked.

There is a need for endorphins to travel through the body. Laughing and crying are the avenues for this to occur; they are the conscious solutions for our endorphins! Expressing emotions is deeply cleansing and necessary for dealing with compulsive/addictive behaviors, co-dependency and many other destructive or limiting patterns in a respectful and successful way.

Think of some creative ways you can allow and embrace the emotions you may not have been aware of before. How can you express them in new ways? Wouldn’t it be nice to learn how to scream in the car or hit a cushion rather than to eat when feeling angry? Finding many situations daily that call for humor, as a non-sense response, is often the most intelligent answer and approach in many areas of life.

Let’s summarize some steps to consciously and intelligently address any of our emotions:

  • Practice identifying hidden emotional responses.
  • Acknowledge and embrace any up-coming emotion.
  • Take some distance from the emotion and know it is not you, it is not the world, and it is not all
  • Observing your emotions is a powerful tool.
  • Allow acceptance and this healthy distance to guide you in finding creative ways to express and release the emotion in a way that is respectful to yourself and all others involved.
  • Experience your new choice – when to express an emotion and when not to – and enjoy your new, more mature way of practicing emotional intelligence.

Give yourself credit for your courage and the new steps you have taken, and thank yourself.